The Mama Perspective | Mum Blog

This month marked two years since my baby came into the world. My beautiful boy, full of cheekiness and cleverness, is forever changing my life. Over the last couple of years, tiredness and patience have been tested but I have been given the most incredible gift, my son.

Since becoming a mum, I’ve had a lot of realisations and it’s given me the strength to:

1. Attend therapy. I’m on my second referral at the moment and both times have proven to be one of the best things I’ve done to help me be better for me, getting a little closer to finding myself again and facing habits and thoughts that have affected me for years.
2. Make health and happiness a priority. Mentally, I’m stronger. Just because I’m in therapy, it doesn’t make me weak, I’m working harder for me, my husband, and my son. Also, reality has hit that
3. Accept that times change. Friendships can become distant; you get to know some people more, others less; and the people who show up in the hardest of times are the people you learn to love and appreciate more.
4. Understand how precious time is. Recently, I am struggling with knowing that the closest people in my life won’t be here forever but I can make the most of here and now. Getting older and being a mum, the smaller moments are soaked in so much more than before.
5. Stand up for myself. If anyone comments or confronts me in a negative way whether it be aimed at me, my son, my husband etc. I’ve found the confidence to say something.
6. Talk about sad memories. There’s a side of me that I feel has been untouched when it comes to thinking I’m okay or done with the past. Therapy is helping me with this.
7. See that my self-esteem has dropped. But there’s actually a positive in this, in that, I am slowly accepting that my body has changed. And it’s okay because I am mother and a wife who is loved and that helps to bring it up at times.
8. Be clear about my priorities. My son comes first. If he needs me, social plans, work meetings, projects etc. can wait. He is growing up in a world where I want him to see what’s important. Being there for him is everything. Every single inch of his happiness warms my heart.
9. Understand who I really need. Sometimes, I need my son more than he needs me. Our little trio – Danny, Freddy and me – is home. There are days when I’m struggling and Freddy gives me the warmth, love, and comfort I need. There are days when watching pure joy on his face and he plays in the living room has brought a tear to my eye.
10. Fall deeper in love. One of my biggest flaws is worrying. I used to wonder if Danny would ever walk away from me, not finding me attractive anymore. Now, we’re here, married. I know he’s not going anywhere.

Can you relate to any of this?

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