The Mama Perspective | Mum Blog

Over the last couple of weeks during my therapy sessions, I’ve been rediscovering my values and the importance each one of them holds in my life. It can be an easy task to do but it’s the reminder of what they tell you that hits hard.

I’ve been telling myself that therapy this time round is different, I keep repeating “I’m not as bad as I was last time”. It’s almost as though I’m telling myself I’ve failed if I’m back in the same place. This week, I’ve struggled a little more and now, I’m telling myself to slow down.

Here are some the things and people I value the most and think about when I need to circle back into positivity.

Being a mum

My absolute aim as a parent, is to be a loving mum, one who listens, and spends quality time with my boy. I want to be the mum he runs too if he’s upset and needs someone to hold him. But I also want him to run to me in all the moments he’s excited about the things that make him happy.

When he learns something new, I want to be his biggest cheerer, the one who tells him he’s so brave and clever. I want to be the mum he will always find comfort in, no matter what.

Being a wife

I’m lucky to be married to my best friend. The two of us have built an amazing life together. We’re also a strong family unit with our son. What we have today hasn’t come without challenges though. Talking to each other has gotten us through the hardest of times.

Every day I want to tell my husband I love him and ask how his day is/has been. I want him to know he’s to most sweetest and kindest soul. I want him to see that I’ll never leave his side. And I’m so grateful that he consistently stands by me through the happy and grumpy days.

Being a friend

For me, it doesn’t need to be a large group of people, rather one, two, or three people who I know I can count on. And I’ll do the same for them. The friends who offer their shoulder to cry on, listen to me ranting or sit there in silence when I can’t say a word, they’re the ones for me.

The random moments of laughter over the littlest things; being ourselves without any judgement; and creating fun memories together.

Being a daughter

Last but definitely not least, my mum and dad. Recently, I’ve had some really sad thoughts in my mind about what my life would be like without them. I know, I shouldn’t think that way but they’re so precious to me. And I think as part of getting older, it does cross your mind.

I might call them a pain or I might do something to annoy them. But no matter what, the two of them are always there. It’s never been about always getting it right, it’s just being there that’s mattered. As my parents, as in-laws, and most specially as grandparents, we love them so much and there’s not a day that goes by where we’re not thankful for them being around.

So, in the midst of parenting chaos, deadlines at work, eating myself up with worrying thoughts, I need to remember that being happy and looking after myself has to come first. To be the mum, wife, daughter, and friend that the most important people in my life deserve, I need to revert back to the special things in my life.