The Mama Perspective | Mum Blog

Isn’t it true that as you get older, you realise what’s important? My perspective has changed on a number of things. I think my change of outlook changed most significantly when I became a mum. All the high and lows I’ve carried with me, and the events I’ve experienced in life contribute to who I am today.

Each day is another day to tell my husband and my son I love them, regardless of what’s going on, there’s so much happiness in our lives. Each phone call to my mum is a catch up about this, that, and everything. Each waking hour spent with my son, is another giggle, kiss, maybe a cry but they are all moments to cherish.

I’ve had a couple of days of leave from work so I’ve been able to enjoy a long weekend and the last two days have all been about Freddy. It’s makes me sad (happy sad) to look back on all the time we spent together not only when I was pregnant, but the months after during maternity leave.

Today, Freddy has played real hard! I’m talking colouring in 2-3 times, had the play dough and sand out, playing with his numbers bus, smiled for photos with his Halloween ‘boo’ top on and so much more fun! With a toddler, you’re always bound to be busy, running around, and joining in the play when you’ve got the energy (or you find it). Each moment is quality time together.

Lots of firsts can fade as new ones blossom; there’s always new to smile about, emotionally in my case, like how your little one smiles and claps when they’re proud of themselves. Or the times when your heart feels so full because everything you’ve always wanted is happening right in front of you.

The other day, me and Danny were in the car, I turned to him and said, “We’re coming up to our eleventh Christmas together!” How is that even happening? Well, yeah, I know, time does its thing. But wow, oh wow.

We still dance in the kitchen and living room and find time for us when we can around looking after our son. It’s the little things like grabbing each others hands, coming up to cuddle from behind, bringing a chocolate bar and cup of tea into me at the end of the day. Honestly, I could go on. He might be the loudest snoring machine but Danny is an absolute dream. And together, our family is everything. Nothing comes close. I’m even more in love with Danny and we take on whatever comes our way, together.

You know when you watch a video in fast motion? That’s how life can feel when you look back. Seeing all the wonderful moments fly by you makes you think about the rest of what life holds. Priorities change with time, appreciation for simple moments grow, and a positive mindset can help you gain the strength you never knew you had.

Danny and me always remind each other that once we were teenagers in love, free spirited and loved all the fun in life. Now, we’re husband and wife, mum and dad. There’s no harm in remembering who we were before parenthood. It’s about picking each other back up through the challenges and supporting one another. Danny knows me better than I know myself. And sometimes when I think he’s not listening, he’ll tell me, “Go and be the amazing you!” when I’m doing that self doubt thing again.

The biggest thing I’ve learned, is to be the best parent I can be, to love as hard as I can, and to look after others, I have to work on me first. It isn’t selfish, I know that now and I’ve seen a lot of personal growth in myself. There are brighter days ahead with so much love and happiness to overpower any ‘bad days’ ahead.