The Mama Perspective | Mum Blog

Being a mum is everything to me. Ever since I saw the two pink lines on the first pregnancy test I took, I had to take two to three more, to really believe it. Every single step of the way from the morning (any time of the day) sickness, to gaining a baby bump, first kicks, and finding out if our baby was going to be a boy or girl, I found a new love.

Being a mum is my priority. I will do everything in my power to make sure my son (Freddy) is happy. Sometimes, that’s a little stroke on his head and a kiss on his forehead, or a cuddle and sitting still for a while in the moment. It also means being the mum who understands what Freddy enjoys. Every child likes to learn in their own way. So, when Freddy gets happy about counting numbers, or singing the alphabet, I’m here to say well done. When he meets new friends, welcomes them and shares his toys, I’m here to say “Good boy.”

The thing is, as a mum, I’ve noticed more and more that people can be so quick to judge from the outside. And sadly at times, those people include women who are mums themselves.

I’d be lying if I told you I haven’t worried about the little details, mostly stemming from being out in public since Freddy was born and then onto starting new chapters of Freddy’s life like primary school. After a while though, I take a step back and realise he is still and will always be learning. Small milestones are worth celebrating.

For example, during his first week of school, Freddy was mostly carried there each morning whilst crying. Week two was up and down. Then by the time week three arrived – he was walking to school happily, holding his lunch bag and reading bag. He always makes me feel so proud.

Being a mum always reminds me what’s important. And I do tend to feel guilty for worrying so much because in a way, it can come across like I’m pressuring Freddy. But I’m not, it’s more people’s judgements that I struggle with. I’m starting to see that’s not always the case and there are struggles that other parents are bound to be facing.

Freddy is his own little person and his personality is shining every day. Together, me and him will learn to grow, through the dancing and the sadness. I want him to be able to express how he feels and teach him that it’s okay. He is human just like me.