The Mama Perspective | Mum Blog

For some people, Valentine’s Day just marks another day on their calendar but for me, it’s a little more than that.

14th February reminds me of 2013 – the first time I received a real “Happy Valentine’s” day message. And every year since then, I’ve been lucky to wake up to that message in person from the same man, my Danny.

It’s not about being soppy; for us it’s about keeping the romance alive. Reminding each other that the little things matter like the hugs no matter how grumpy of frustrated I might be feeling, the bar of chocolate bought from the shop because I’ve been thought of, and in fact, is something that our son has picked up from following his dad’s actions. Freddy will never let “mummy/mama” be forgotten.

I always remember saying to Danny before we got into a relationship how he’ll get “bored of me after two weeks.” I couldn’t have been more wrong. After initially saying no to the idea of officially going into a relationship with him and looking back, life would’ve been so different eh?! We’re almost 12 years in, 2 years married, and soon to be a family of 4 in a few months.

You can always keep the love alive if you want to. You know when people say, “Oh, when to get to my age, you don’t celebrate Valentine’s anymore.” I can honesty say that I don’t imagine that being us. It’s not about grand gestures – it’s also not just about the one day a year – it’s all year round. No matter how many Valentine’s, anniversaries, birthdays etc. have passed, Danny never fails to make an effort. It’s never less. He’s always been consistent with who he is and who he is as a partner and now husband.

This Valentine’s, I made Danny a tray of chocolate brownies. I’m not a baker but it’s something he likes so I wanted to try. My first time baking them was during COVID and they went down a treat. Safe to say, they didn’t disappoint this time round neither! Phew!

I got some new pyjamas from Freddy and red roses from Danny. He never forgets the things I love. I’m wearing new pyjamas right now as I write this post. And when I came home from work, there were some crafts that Freddy had made in school (cuteness overload). A card, handprints with some words, and a big picture of him holding “Love” balloons. As if my favourite part of my day wasn’t come home to him and his daddy already – seeing these made me smile even more.

We might not be able to find time to ourselves as easily as 12 years ago, but we try where we can. Yesterday for example, it was Freddy’s parents evening and after a really lovely meeting with his teachers, we took ourselves for some food to make the most of Freddy being at nanny and grandad’s after school.

We spent a lot of time talking about Freddy, it’s very hard not to. And we got talking about how proud we are of him. He’s come such a long way since starting school and his teachers reassured us that we made the right decision with sending him to primary school even though we had our worries.

And throughout all, there’s a whole lot of love between the three of us. It’s important for us that Freddy sees a mummy and daddy who truly love each other, not just on Valentine’s but every day of the year. But why not make this one day extra special?

I’ll forever show him how much he’s loved.