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Motherhood isn’t perfect but the love is constant.

Motherhood isn’t always picture-perfect. Some days feel heavy and are really hard. Some moments stretch you to your limits. And some days you can’t even describe why you feel low or as fed up as you do, but it happens. And yet, through all of it, one thing remains, the love for your kids.

If you’re a new reader – I’ve recently become a mum of two. So, now I have a 3 year old son, and a 3 week old son! Adjusting in these first few weeks hasn’t been easy but it’s got me thinking about the love I still have for my boys no matter what kind of day goes by.

I can feel low and still love my kids

There are days when the weight of everything feels too much. I might not always be smiling or upbeat, but the love I have for my boys is constant, no matter my mood, even on the days where my patience is really tested!

I can feel overwhelmed and still love my kids

When the house is noisy from toys, laughs, cries, when the washing is still piling up no matter how many loads I do a day, and the to-do list won’t end, I can feel like I’m drowning but I still love my boys and they are my one true meaning in life.

I can feel tired and still love my kids

Sleepless nights, early mornings, and everything in between can make me feel so drained but even when I’m exhausted, I still try my best to show up with love. I’m not perfect, I don’t always get it right but I try.

I can shout when I’m all touched out but I still love my kids

There are moments when I reach my edge, when I raise my voice because I’m overstimulated and I just want the noise and stress to stop. That doesn’t make my love any less real.

I can cry when it all feels too much but I still love my kids.

Tears don’t mean weakness. They mean I’m human. I’m just a mum doing my best. And through the cries the love for my boys doesn’t go anywhere.

I can get frustrated by all the noise but I still love my kids

The chaos of loud playing, the cries, the meltdowns – it’s a lot for any parent, right? Sometimes I need quiet, space, and calm. That doesn’t mean I don’t treasure my boys, it means I’m learning how to care for myself so I can care for them the best I can.

No day is perfect

Some days are chaotic and so damn hard. Feeling all of the above, someone might wonder, “Why did you ever want kids? Or a second one at that?” And I’ll always say, because there’s no love like it. It’s hard but it’s so worth it.

I will always, always love my boys.

They are the best decision I’ve ever made, and no hard moment, no loud meltdown, no stretch of exhaustion will ever change that.

Motherhood isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up – imperfectly too – and with all the love in my heart. Just the other day, my eldest son had his first Sports Day and I got the experience the importance of showing up perspective as a mum. It was one of the most heartwarming moments I’ve ever experienced. His little face lit up and it was everything.

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I take motherhood one day at a time. And I’m trying to remind myself that kids and parents have emotions. Neither or us are perfect, but I wouldn’t trade what we have for anything. I’m growing just as much as they are.