There seems to be a belief that once you become a mum, your ambition disappears. That your career suddenly becomes less important to you. That your goals, dreams, and professional achievements should quietly take a back seat because motherhood is now your entire identity.
But here’s the thing, you can love being a mum and love your job. The two are not mutually exclusive. I am incredibly proud to be a mum. My boys are my greatest achievement, my biggest source of joy, and the reason behind so much of what I do. Becoming a mother changed me in ways I never expected. It made me stronger, more resilient, more patient, and more determined.
But it didn’t erase who I was before. I still have passions. I still have ambitions. I still enjoy working. And I refuse to feel guilty for that.
There is often pressure on mums to choose a side. Either you’re fully devoted to motherhood or you’re career-driven. Either you’re at every school event and playdate or you’re chasing professional goals. Why can’t we be both? Why can’t we be loving, present mothers while also enjoying the work we do?
I enjoy having something that belongs to me outside of motherhood. I enjoy using my skills, learning new things, and building a career that I’m proud of. Working gives me purpose in a different way. It challenges me, helps me grow, and reminds me that I am more than one role.
That doesn’t make me any less devoted to my children. In fact, I believe it makes me a better role model. I want my boys to grow up seeing a woman who loves her family fiercely but who also values her own goals. I want them to know that women don’t have to shrink themselves after becoming mothers.
But let me be clear about one thing – my role as a mum will always come first. Always.
No meeting, deadline, or career opportunity will ever be more important than my children. If they need me, I’m there. If they’re struggling, they come first. If I have to choose between work and my family, I will choose my family every single time. That’s not because my career doesn’t matter. It’s because my children are my priority.
The reality is that motherhood and ambition can coexist. Loving your career doesn’t mean you love your children any less. Wanting professional fulfilment doesn’t make you selfish. Being proud of your work doesn’t take away from being proud of your family.
We need to stop asking mums to justify why they work, why they enjoy their jobs, or why they have ambitions outside of motherhood.
We’re allowed to be more than one thing.
We’re allowed to be mothers and professionals. We’re allowed to be nurturing and ambitious. We’re allowed to build careers and build families. And for me, that’s exactly what I’m doing because I love being a mum and I love my job. And I don’t have to choose between them.
If you’ve read my post, “The Reality of Returning to Work After Having My Second Child“, you’ll know that returning to work after maternity leave brought a mix of emotions and challenges. This journey has only reinforced what I now know for certain: I can be committed to my career while remaining completely devoted to my children. The two can exist side by side.
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