The Mama Perspective

It wasn’t until I became a mum that I took my mental health seriously, well more seriously than I did before then. I wasn’t prepared for the sleepless nights combined with the change of emotions running through my body during the newborn stage. But I’ve always known how much I love my little boy (Freddy) and wanting to be the best mum I can be.

There are days that test my patience more than others but then I take a moment to remember, while it might seem like there was never a time without my son in my life, he’s only been on the outside world for almost two and a half years.

Freddy is growing so fast each day, learning new ways to act out a toddler tantrum it seems at times but I wouldn’t change a thing. While he is growing, I am becoming a stronger person being a mum and learning much more about myself. The little smile, giggle, “mama”, mispronunciation of words in a cute way – it’s everything.

Here are some reminders I’m trying out when I doubt myself as a mum or feeling like I don’t have enough energy to try harder.

No one is a perfect parent

Parenting comes with its fair share of moments you can’t predict, just as you think, “Oh, I’m holding it together pretty well today” until…

I think it’s important to show your child(ren) that sometimes we make mistakes and that’s okay. I want to show Freddy we don’t live in a ‘perfect world’ but there’s always a reason to smile each day, especially for me as I have him.

When times get a little challenging I like to think there are things I can try.

Make ‘me’ time

Whether it’s to finish a cup of tea whilst it’s still hot or a short walk in outside to get some fresh air, it’s important to recharge. When I’m a happy mum, I can take on the responsibilities on looking after Freddy, to make him happy too.

Message friends and family

Parenting, especially in the newborn stage can make you feel lonely, but you’re not alone. I’ve got a small but lovely handful of mum friends. They mean a lot to me and have helped me through parts of my life they won’t even know about.

Celebrate the little things

Some days I tell myself, “I got out of bed today, managed to dress my son without him kicking around, and got out to the door to get to work on time.” And sometimes, that’s what I do, take things one step at a time. Just last night, me and my husband thought it was an early night for Freddy until he woke up two hours later. But that went more time see Freddy, cuddle him, see those long eyelashes of his close and he got sleepy again. There are ups and downs but so many special moments which I’ll hold onto forever.

For me, being the best mum I can be starts with taking care of myself. By prioritising my mental health, it benefits not only me but my family too. So, if you’re having a challenging mum or dad day today, take a deep breath, and remember, you’ve got this!