The Mama Perspective | Mum Blog

I’ve been through occasions in my life, some more repeatedly than others where I’ve felt low to the point where it’s affected my entire life. I’m talking friendships, my relationship, but most importantly my entire self. The physical and emotional states have been the worst they’ve ever been. I’ve experienced avoidance of seeing people, hating my whole body image, and not liking the sadness overload.

I was struggling to find positives. But one thing I’ve never failed and know I never will, is being able to love my son. No matter what, absolutely nothing, comes before him. There isn’t a thing in the world that would stop me from wanting to be the best mum I can be, for him. That means that when times do get tough, he’s always the signal to show me what I need to do. Whether it be talking to someone like a friend/family member or professionally. I’ve been had the odd rant to a couple of people in work.

I think in today’s world especially, it shouldn’t be unusual to talk about how we feel. I’m not saying there’s always a need to go into great detail but aren’t we all human? Shouldn’t we feel strong for talking and expressing how we feel? Regardless of who are you, what you do for a living, what you’ve done right or wrong in the past or at present, mental health and health all around should always be a priority.

Emotional challenges aren’t always about putting someone to blame because the only way forward is to help yourself. And the first step is acknowledging that help needs to happen if you want to make a difference in your life and potentially others you’re close with.

On my phone, I have a section inside the Apple health app. It asks you to log how you’ve felt during a moment in the day or overall for the day. Today was the first time in a long while that I logged “Very Pleasant”. I’ve had neutral most days with the odd “Slightly Unpleasant” rather than totally unpleasant.

Even if you don’t see it at the time, negative thoughts can impact how you see yourself, how you think, how you react to others, and how you behave in your “happy places”. Take mine for instance – at home – where I should feel most at peace. There are times I’ve felt frustrated, fed up, and lost. But it’s more what’s going on around me than the place. Sometimes, I just need to bring myself back to remind me what and who really makes me happy. And where those things or people aren’t, it could be time for a change. It could be as little as new daily habits for coping mechanisms, being more active, or eating healthier.

It isn’t always easy but there are always so many things to be grateful for. Remember to surround yourself around things and people that spark positivity and one of those people needs to be you. How you speak to yourself says more than it does from anyone else.