The Mama Perspective | Mum Blog

It’s so easy to be overshadowed what other people think about you or the impression they give in how they perceive you.

As a mum, wife, friend, family member, or simply just as a human being, I’ve found it easy to put others’ needs before my own and sometimes lose sight of how much doing something for me matters. But I know that my worth isn’t defined by what I do for others, nor is it measured by their expectations. It’s tough sometimes to 100% live by this but it’s still true.

It’s also helpful to set boundaries. I’ve heard it a lot since becoming a mum in talks of disciplining my child but it’s equally beneficial in my opinion to set certain boundaries in friendships and around family. No matter how much someone means to me, I have to set what’s right for me.

As a parent

As a mum, I’ve witnessed how the love, patience (on good days), and guidance I give my son, shapes his life and his childhood. My role as his mum has to come above everything else, even in moments when I feel overwhelmed or unappreciated by others. I’m guilty of losing my patience sooner on some days, especially being pregnant with his baby brother. But I understand that I play a part in what he’ll look back on when he’s older as he reminisces on his memories a child.

One of the many things I love about my little boy, who is 3 years old, is that he never judges how I look. I could be very occasionally glammed up or I could look exactly how I do right now – with a breakout of spots on my chin, my hair in a messy bun, and wearing fluffy Stitch pyjamas, and he loves me all the same. He’s the sweetest little soul and I hope that I can always show him and his baby brother to be, the importance of remembering their worth in return. If I don’t show them how to value myself, how can I expect either of them to know how to value themselves?

As a wife

It would be hard to forget my value as a wife as Danny loves and appreciates me every single day. Sometimes I’ll moan, a lot. Would I be his wife if I didn’t? I’m talking about making comments that he’s left socks on the floor, or not put the rubbish in the bin, just because it’s not done as quickly as I would do it. There’s no other way like the wife way eh?! Yet, he will be still be thankful for everything I do in and outside of the house.

Danny loves me for who I am as a person, always.

As a friend

As a friend, especially as someone who has drifted away from old friendships for various reasons, showing kindness, listening to their stories (the good and bad), and offering help where I can, holds a strong friendship.

A reminder for you

Never forget your worth. Whether you’re facing the challenges of parenting, being a good friend, or simply living your life, remember that you matter. Always.