The Mama Perspective | Mum Blog

When I found out I was pregnant with my second child, it brought the memory of being pregnant with my first. After so many months of thinking I had missed a period but it turned out to be delayed or it was mistaken for a hemorrhagic cyst, I couldn’t believe it when I seen those two pink lines. It brought back all the feelings I had when I was pregnant with my first son, Freddy.

Health Wise

I feel calmer this time round. I don’t mean I’m 100% laid back about everything but you know, there’s definitely a difference compared to my first pregnancy. I still have to be monitored with my blood pressure as I have hypertension outside of pregnancy. The clinic I’m under again is amazing – they’re so supportive and kind.

The sickness hasn’t been fun. With Freddy, I think it stopped around 12-13 weeks then crept up a little in the third trimester. This time though, it was constant up until around 22 weeks with the odd sickness due to reflux here and there.

In terms of my self esteem, I’m trying to be nicer to myself in how I talk to myself about my body growing another human being. It’s so easy to say how big or unattractive I look but my husband reminds me that I’m in fact not a mess, I’m carrying our second child.

People’s reactions

Less people check in with me but the ones that really matter do ask how things are going. I remember during my first pregnancy, a lot of people told us how excited they were to visit baby once he was born. They were all about our newborn bubble phase but started to drift away once the newness had gone.

Both me and Danny want people who truly care to be around our child, not just for photo uploads on social media, you know the kind.

So, how does it all feel?

There’s less time for naps with a three year old needing his mama’s love and attention. But he’s been so sweet and looks after me just like his daddy does. When he knows I’m tired, he cuddles up to me and brings me a blanket. He’s been sharing his snacks with me too! But the best part is that he’s really understanding that his baby brother is inside mummy’s belly. He hugs my baby bump, strokes it, and says “Hi baby!”

There’s nothing better than the love he gives me.

So, although this second pregnancy is going fast and it’s more hectic, I couldn’t be more grateful to have my firstborn son be part of the journey this time round. He is what makes it extra special.

To anyone who’s going through their second pregnancy right now, don’t listen to all the “wait until you can’t sleep again” or “wait until you have to change all those nappies again”. Because you know what? There are plenty more wait until positive moments that are about to begin. Think about the first time you see both of your children in the room together being introduced, or the playtimes that are to come. It will all be worth it.