Teaching myself to stay calm during stressful situations hasn’t always come easy. Whether it’s a tantrum from my 3-year-old or challenges at work, I do my best to get through it all but I’ve noticed that sometimes, stress gets the better of me. Now, in this stage of my second pregnancy, I’m learning to remind myself, “I can only do what I can do.” Sometimes that means finding calm to help my son through his big emotions, which often ends in a cuddle or us snuggling each other to sleep. Other times, it’s stepping back and asking, “Can this wait until tomorrow?”
High blood pressure and stress
I’ve had high blood pressure since I was 24. Doctors have always wondered if it’s hereditary, but one thing I’ve learned over the years is that blood pressure and stress definitely don’t mix.
During both of my pregnancies, I’ve been under the care of a clinic in Manchester called MAViS, and they’ve been amazing at supporting me. They keep a close eye on me, especially during the third trimester, with extra scans and monitoring my blood pressure. Touch wood things are going better this time around.
I guess I learned the hard way, through most of my life and my first pregnancy, how much stress can affect my body. During my last pregnancy, I ended up at the hospital countless times, day and night, and even had to stay overnight because my blood pressure was off the charts. This time around, I’ve had a few high readings, but nothing too concerning, and I’ve been able to get advice over the phone. Most likely, it’s been caused by worry and stress – not great for me or the baby. So, it’s really important that I take care of both of us as much as I can when it’s in my control. Unless it’s just pregnancy hormones and all the changes in my body, I’ll do my best to keep my blood pressure in check.
Accepting my body image
I’m learning that stress doesn’t have to be tied to how I look, either. I think that’s something I’ve come to realise since becoming a mum. It’s nice to feel good about yourself, but how you look shouldn’t define who you are. On the days when I feel somewhat prettier, sure, I get a little confidence boost, but it doesn’t change the fact that I’m a good mum, a hardworking person, and a wife who wants to support my husband in every way I can.
The stretch marks don’t bother me like they did the first time. I’ve noticed some more appear on my thighs, and the ones from my first pregnancy with Freddy are showing up again but honestly, they make me feel happy. I’m grateful that I get to grow another little human. Women’s bodies are incredible. I’m amazed at how much my baby bump has grown recently, and all I feel is love.
Some days, I worry a bit and feel guilty for not giving my baby bump enough attention. So whenever I can, I take a moment to rub my belly, say “Hi baby!”, and remind him that I love him. He doesn’t know it yet, but he’s already surrounded by so much love from his daddy and big brother. It’s a simple way I bring myself back to calm.
Right now, as I’m writing this post, I am lay in bed (sat up with my pregnancy pillow) feeling relaxed as I write out what’s on my mind. Writing really is good for my soul and as I’ve said before it’s like my therapy.
If you’re feeling the effects of stress right now – whether it’s daily life, motherhood, or work – remember, you’re human. Some things can wait, and your health always comes first. If you’re like me, you’ll probably find yourself enjoying a cup of tea or running a nice bubble bath!
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