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Natasha is a mum of two little boys and the voice behind The Mama Perspective. Passionate about maternal mental health and self-care, she writes honestly about the highs, lows, and healing moments of motherhood.
  • Things Parents Can Teach Their Children

    Things Parents Can Teach Their Children

    This post is inspired by my husband, and the best daddy to our little boy, and how together we are a family unit with our son, Freddy.

    If there’s one thing I know, it’s that Danny is on this earth to be a dad. Ever since the day I found out I was pregnant towards the end of 2020, the love and protection from him was unreal. It brought us a closeness I didn’t realise we needed.

    Then once Freddy was born, our whole lives changed forever. This new bundle of joy that we created, locked eyes with us and our hearts were fuller.

    Our patience has been tested – from the newborn to toddler stage – but we’ve also had the most magical times. Becoming a mum has changed me in so many ways but I’ll leave that post for another day.

    Here’s some of the things that come to mind when I think about my the family we’ve built, for almost two years.

    It’s always playtime

    If they could both stay awake for 24 hours, I’m pretty sure I’d continue to hear a football being kicked and bouncing on the floor, ABCS and one-two-threes singalongs, and the most excited giggle sounds. Having fun and being silly is how we spent most days, that’s how it should be, right? Some days, life won’t be a walk in the park, but there’s always time to do something that makes you smile. Time spent together is important.

    The value of love

    It’s very obvious how much Danny loves his son and I always do my best to show that too. Freddy is growing up in a household where he sees how much daddy loves mummy and vice versa. One of our wishes is to give Freddy a home full of love and happiness, built on respect for each other, and whenever there’s a chance to cuddle or dance through the highs and lows, do it.

    To feel safe

    Freddy will agree with me when I say, there’s no safer place than in Danny’s arms. Even when we’re grumpy with each other, we never end the day feeling sad with one another. Most times, we laugh it out but most of all, talk. Danny has taught me to open up and I hope Freddy will will never be scared to share things with the both of us.

    To be happy

    I would love to re-live some of my childhood memories – from playing in the park to playing pretend shop – the simplest but happiest moments. I smile whenever I think about these kind of times. Every day is a new memory and I hope Freddy will treasure lots of times from time spent with me and his dad, especially ones to remember for when he is an adult.

    So, there we have it. I could list tonnes more but these are the ones that stick out to me. As a parent you learn something new every day. There’s always a new learning curve to experience. You never forget the first smile, giggle, crawl, steps, dadas and everything else that follows. I’m here for it all.

  • The Ups, Downs, and Everything In Between

    The Ups, Downs, and Everything In Between

    This time last year, I wasn’t in a good place. Most days I felt lost and out of touch with the things I enjoy. My husband and little boy did their best to keep a smile on my face but 5 out of 7 days, I cried at least once. Some days I didn’t want to shower, get out of bed, or talk to anyone.

    The agitation and sadness was eating me up. But during this time, I was getting used to attending therapy for the first time. Making the decision to attend therapy is a big step, no matter what you’re going through. And sometimes, it takes that one person, outside from your family or friends circle, to do nothing other than listen.

    Outlook on therapy

    After 9 months, I received my diagnosis of anxiety and depression with PTSD along the way. Neither were easy to hear as the terms can be used so loosely nowadays.

    If I needed to attend therapy again I would within a heartbeat. I know that I’m stronger than I was last year but I can’t deny the fact, I still struggle.

    One thing I’m telling myself is that, I’m living the life I always dreamt of. I’m a mum, a wife, a friend, a marketing exec etc.

    Looking forward

    I married my best friend a couple of months ago and my little boy will be two in a couple of months.

    I’m choosing to surround myself with people who make my life more positive. There’s nothing better than seeing friends and family support you, especially when they know you’ve gone through a rough time.

    Every single moment spent with my little family is precious, even in between all the tantrums and disagreements. The giggles and endless amount of cuddles are everything. I’m here for it all – the ups, downs, and everything in between.

    I’ve always been grateful for what and who I have. And the older I get, I realise it doesn’t need to be a lot – of people or things.

    When a down day comes, even if I’ve spent time in bed or been distant, Danny and Freddy know I’m there and I just need some time.

  • Welcome to The Mama Perspective

    Welcome to The Mama Perspective

    As someone who used to be a blogger for quite a few years, it’s only been a while but I’m back with a place to share my thoughts.

    I hope you will take something away from my blog – find a new perspective on the challenges you might face in life and know that, there’s always someone out there who can relate to you.

    Please comment and share, if there’s a post you like.