The Mama Perspective

Motherhood and Maternal Wellbeing

  • My Son’s First Two Weeks of School

    A couple of weeks ago, I shared a post on how I was feeling about my son starting school for the first time. It’s been a little up and down with getting him dressed in the morning. We’re getting there though. He’s not crying as much going to school. But that’s typical Freddy – he has the time of his life once he’s there. When I seen photos of him playing via one of the school’s social pages, I immediately smiled.

    When we pick him up, he walks out looking so happy with a big smile on his face as he runs to us. Seeing him wearing his little backpack that’s actually more than half the size of him and carrying his reading bag, melts my heart. Little Mr Independent.

    So, I think at first, it’s the change from private nursery to primary school. Freddy is all about routine – days of the work associated with certain environments and directions on where those places are. But two weeks in, and full time from now on (woooo), we’re starting to notice a difference.

    Just yesterday, when we arrived at the playground outside school, Freddy said, “Yay!” and was happy to see the teachers open the doors. He’s took a liking to a certain one of course, and goes in for her to hold his hand or have a cuddle first. Freddy has been this way ever since starting private nursery at 9 months old. It’s always really nice to see. He likes to root for his safe person in the room so I’m happy he has her.

    Remember I said I might even meet a mum friend too? Well, there’s one who has said hi and chatted to me and Danny right from Freddy’s first day and her daughter is so friendly to all the kids. I hope there are more parents and children that can be as kind. And there’s something special when seeing her and Freddy walking back from school some days and going to the shop. You wouldn’t guess it, but Freddy goes for ice pops, no matter the weather! Oh, and one of each colour that’s in the freezer. I do love him and his cheekiness. Every time I hear him say, “Shop now” it’s either going to be to stock up on ice pops, fruit, or cucumbers! Random choices I know, but they are his go-to items.

    I happen to be writing this part last but it’s the one thing that I still stare at and makes me realise just how much Freddy is growing. The uniform. Seeing him wearing it, especially through struggled of getting him dressed most days so far, he’s always happy once it’s done and looks extra cute each day. He’s obsessed with his dinosaur wellies and I love it.

    No matter if Freddy finds something challenging, even if other kids don’t, or what comes to easy to him, but not for other children, it’s okay. He’s his own little person and I couldn’t be prouder of him. I say that and he’ll probably do something new and I’m amazed again.

    Here’s to Freddy on his new adventure. Go and have the best time!

  • Nothing Needs to Be Picture Perfect

    There’s more to life than being ‘picture perfect’. Behind the cracks, nothing is ever perfect. One day, probably not so often, you might see a photo where I was looking nice for a few hours but then the next, I’m in my comfy clothes walking back from Gregg’s eating a sausage roll without a care in the world. If you’re new to my blog, something about me you can find out now is that food makes me happy and I always bring it up in conversation.

    It’s good to have days where you feel more confident about yourself but we shouldn’t lose too much authenticity to how we look and feel naturally. Smile because you deserve to be happy. Wear the outfit because you feel comfortable in it not because you constantly feel like you have to look your best or make an impression.

    The power of social media has always puzzled me. It’s easy to get hooked, on the not so good habits, like comparing your life to someone else’s. I’m guilty. I’ve done it and still do to be honest. But it’s also a happy place to share things that are important to you or like a digital memory box.

    It’s easy to feel like everything in life needs to be picture perfect. I see flawlessly curated feeds showcasing the same perfect appearances, perfect homes, and perfect families. But behind every post, there’s a reality that’s often messy, imperfect, and chaotic. Why don’t we share more honesty? I don’t mean we have to go full on negative but you know, something a bit closer to reality.

    Live in the moment. There’s always something worth smiling for right now in the present. This is coming from a woman who worries left right and centre. It’s like it’s embedded in my brain to but I’m trying to not let it overpower me. Just the other day, I asked Danny, “where do you store all the worrysome stuff?” and he told me something along the lines of “Channel your energy into something. Write, go to the gym, go for a walk, do whatever makes you happy.”

    Life doesn’t need to be perfect to be meaningful. Your appearance doesn’t have to meet every societal standard to be accepted for who you are. A photograph doesn’t need to be flawless to capture a special moment. Family life isn’t about having everything in order but about sharing love, even in all the chaos. A fun social life isn’t about constant plans but about real friendships even in quieter moments.

    Life isn’t real without imperfections. Guess what? Going to the gym and ending up with a red sweaty face after a workout is normal. Bumping into someone in the middle of your food shop isn’t your best look but it’s fine. My whispy hair is in full force today and that’s okay too.

    Being perfect is over rated anyway. I’m going to take a leaf out of my son’s book and be happy over the little things. The way his face lights up, makes everything else slow down.

  • How do I feel about my son starting primary school?

    On the first week of September my son will start a new chapter of his life – primary school. Me and Danny have been talking about it coming up in the future but now it’s so close we’re a mixture of emotions. Excited, proud, bittersweet, you know? He will leaving a lot of his close friends behind at nursery as he steps into a new nursery life at primary school.

    We’ve bought the uniform. And I already know I’m going to cry once he is wearing it on his first day of primary school. The little polo with the school jumper on top, and the grey trousers, with his new shoes, oh he will look the absolute cutest.

    Freddy has been in private nursery since he was 9 months old and will end his time there at the end of August. He turned 3 years old earlier this month. A couple of people have asked me why we’re sending him to school at 3 years old and not waiting until 4 years old. And me being me, I actually started to panic, wondering if he is going to be okay. But as I do, especially as mum, I got inside my own head. As his parents, me and Danny know that Freddy will start primary school and he will love it. He is going to thrive, continuing to learn new things and make new friends. He might not fully understand that he’s moving into somewhere new just yet but we are here by his side each step of the way, just as his teacher will be. Plus, there we will 20+ other children in the same boat.

    Me and Danny sat down and went through his memory books together the other night looking at how much his learning, social, and development has progressed. It wouldn’t be right if I didn’t cry as I went through the pages. Happy tears though.

    Freddy’s school teacher came to visit him at nursery and we were told that he loves her. Of course, he wanted cuddles and to show her all of his books he was enjoying at the time.

    I couldn’t be prouder of the young, happy little soul he’s grown into. It feels like I gave birth one minute, spent a while trying to find myself again, and suddenly my baby will soon be starting his new adventure. A whole new chapter – you keep being your amazing self, Freddy.

    And who knows, maybe I’ll meet some more mum friends too!

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