The Mama Perspective

As I sit down to write this post, I can’t help but think about the incredible journey me and Danny have been on for over 10 years. Becoming mummy and daddy to our little boy is up there as the best thing to happen to the both of us. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions, sleepless nights, and countless nappy changes. But in the middle of the beautiful chaos, there’s something that I want to share – how motherhood has changed me.

I’m stronger than before

I’m stronger than I ever thought I could be. I don’t just mean pregnancy, labour, and giving birth, or the meltdowns between cries, and tantrums. There’s something that’s given me the confidence to stand up for myself though I’m still in the process of sticking to my gut when I believe in something.

A new perspective

Motherhood has also given me a new perspective on time and how precious it is. I used to think I was busy before, but now I understand what it means to spend time with your family and how they will always come first. Every minute counts, and I’ve learned to prioritise and make the most of each day including all the little moments. It’s no longer just about me; it’s about creating a loving home for our boy.

And here’s another thing, patience. Some days I have it and other days it’s challenging. The cries, the toys around the room, and trying to figure out what’s wrong – they’ve all taught me to take a deep breath and approach things calmly. I’ve realised that it’s not about dealing with everything at once but about being there, listening, and comforting when needed.

Stronger relationships

As a parent, I’ve also become even closer to my mum. I now understand some of the decisions she made and her great deal of love in a way that I didn’t quite see it as before.

But perhaps the most beautiful change is falling in love with Danny all over again. Seeing him become a dad, the love and care he has for our son, it’s everything.

So, it’s clear to see that motherhood has changed me in many positive ways. I hope that other mums reading this post take one thing away – embrace the way motherhood has changed you.

Motherhood – a journey that began on the day I found out I was pregnant with my son. From the sweetest sound of giggles and lots of cuddles, it really gives you the most heartwarming feeling. Anyone who is part of the motherhood tribe, knows that it’s also a whirlwind of chaos but the most beautiful time of your life.

1. Morning madness
   I’ve always been an early riser in the morning but as my son is a toddler now, I do wonder if he’ll be awake earlier or later than usual. Once he wakes up and I hear him chatting away to himself and his teddies, it makes me and his dad smile so much.
2. Multitasking
   From unloading the washing machine to singing “If you’re happy and you know it…” to your toddler. Meanwhile, wishing you hadn’t let another cup of tea go cold.
3. Messy but cute stuff
   Finger prints on the walls and cupboards, Cheerios and Wotsits crumbs on the floor, Lego blocks piles on the and another book, you get it. It used to be hard for me because I lovely a tidy, clean home but now I remind myself, that these messy moments won’t be around forever.
4. Bedtime
   Where did the saying “slept like a baby” even come from? It’s not always warm cuddly moments; it can be pretending to fall asleep in the hope your child will; trying to avoid eye contact; or hoping they don’t grab another toy. But when my son is asleep, I look through photos of him on my phone and start to miss him. A good night’s sleep is always bliss though.
5. Snacks and more snacks
   Give me crisps and I’m a happy woman. In fact, let’s say crisps, chocolate, chips, and anything that my husband thinks is just for him to enjoy! Sometimes a snack, let’s be honest multiple snacks, gives you what you need during the chaotic moments in motherhood.
6. Emptying the washing basket
   I feel like I’ve accomplished something great when I manage to empty my son’s washing basket but then… there’s the pile of clothes hanging out of the bigger one that belongs to me and his dad.
7. Embracing the chaos
   From the spilled milk, tantrums (especially during that terrible two stage), and never-ending piles of clothes to be washed, there’s an indescribable love that overpowers all the chaos. It’s in those sweet cuddles, kisses, and grabbing my hand to see where my son wants to go. That’s it – the love – it makes it all worth it.

So, to all the mums out there, know that you’re not alone. Embrace the mayhem, cherish the giggles and smiles, and hold onto those moments that you’ll never get back but stay in your memory forever.