The Mama Perspective

Motherhood and Maternal Wellbeing

The voice behind the blog

Natasha is a mum of two little boys and the voice behind The Mama Perspective. Passionate about maternal mental health and self-care, she writes honestly about the highs, lows, and healing moments of motherhood.
  • 7 Things I Stopped Doing as a Mum That Made Me Happier 

    7 Things I Stopped Doing as a Mum That Made Me Happier 

    I didn’t become a calmer mum *on some days* because I got more organised, although that’s something that’s very much in my nature not only as a mum but as the person I was before kids. I’ve noticed that I’ve became a happier mum because I started to become more aware of things I couldn’t let go of at first and I’m trying to be kinder to myself.


    It’s the quiet everyday pressures that build up in the background you want to stop, but don’t always really know how to. 

    1. I stopped trying to enjoy every moment

    Sometimes motherhood is hard, to put it simply. It’s loud, repetitive, and exhausting. Knowing that all days aren’t magical for my boys makes me feel guilty at times. But I’m only human and boundaries can be tested, you know? 

    2. I stopped comparing myself to ‘perfect mums’ online

    Everyone has their own version of being a happy mum. For some it consists of matching outfits for the whole family or a spotless house. Meanwhile, I’m over here taking deep breathes regaining some my sanity that’s left as I empty the dishwasher again.

    When I stopped measuring myself against strangers, I felt lighter instantly.

    3. I stopped saying yes when I was already overwhelmed

    Playdates. School things. “Quick” favours. I used to say yes out of guilt. Now I say no out of survival.

    4. I stopped believing I had to do it all myself

    The mental load is real and invisible. Asking for help didn’t make me weak. It made me function as a better mum to my boys. And one person I should never push away is my husband. 

    5. I stopped feeling guilty for needing time away from my kids

    This one was hard. But I’m not just a mum. I’m someone who enjoys my career. I’m a person who still needs space, quiet, and a bit of identity. Sometimes you have to take a moment to yourself to think, “who am I now?”

    6. I stopped chasing a perfectly tidy home

    My house looks lived in. Because it is.
    Anyone that knows me, understands how I struggle to sit still. So, it’s true to say that this is still a work in progress for me but I’m trying to leave things a little longer rather than expecting myself to do 100s of things at once.

    7. I stopped trying to be the ‘gentle, patient mum’ all the time

    I still try. But I also snap sometimes. I get overwhelmed. I’m only human and I make sure I say sorry for the moments when I’m feeling everything getting to me at once.

    Letting go of perfection didn’t make me worse, it made me more human.

    I didn’t become a better mum by doing more. I became a better mum by letting go of the things that were quietly breaking me.

    What’s one thing you’ve stopped doing that made motherhood feel lighter?

  • 6 Small Wins Every Working Mum Should Celebrate This Week

    6 Small Wins Every Working Mum Should Celebrate This Week

    Do you ever sit back at the end of the week and wonder what you’ve actually achieved… only to land on “nothing really”? Yeah, same here.

    But if you pause for a moment and really think about it, you’ll probably realise you’ve done far more than you’re giving yourself credit for. It doesn’t have to be anything huge or life-changing – just small, meaningful wins that quietly carry you through the week.

    Take my week, for example.

    I’ll be honest, I’ve felt some mum guilt creeping in. The kind that tells you you’re not “doing enough”, especially during the holidays. I managed a couple of lunchtime park trips while the weather was nice, spent time properly playing with the boys, and took them to see the new Mario movie last weekend.

    And yet… it still doesn’t feel like enough when you’re scrolling and seeing what other parents are doing.

    The reality is, I can’t take every day off during the Easter holidays. If I did, we’d have nothing left for the six-week summer break and, as Freddy would say, no pennies for “getting on the plane for holiday” in a few months.

    So instead of focusing on what I haven’t done, here’s what I have done this week. 

    1. I reached over 100 followers on The Mama Perspective Facebook page – finally!

    Why has it felt so hard to grow on there? Who knows?! But it’s a milestone, and I’m taking it.

    2. I managed the juggle

    Full-time work and kids at home for the first week of the Easter holidays is no small feat. I’m incredibly grateful for my hybrid role and an understanding company – it’s made all the difference.

    3. I let go (a little)

    My four-year-old has decided he wants to dress himself every day… including bedtime. When did he get so grown up? He’s saying more and more that he “wants to try” or he “can do it” himself. Okay, big boy, not needing mama for these things.

    4. I checked in with myself

    I’ve started to recognise what I can realistically handle mentally and physically and I’m using that awareness to stand up for myself both at work and at home. Honestly, who is this new version of me?

    5. I proved to myself that I’ve still got it

    Deadlines met, work delivered, and a quiet reminder that even in the chaos, I’m still capable. Let’s just see if I’m saying the same thing after week two of Easter holiday madness…

    6. I soaked up the baby moments

    My youngest has been his usual happy self this week – eating what feels like everything in the house and getting stronger by the day. He’s pulling himself up, cruising along the furniture, and I can tell those first steps aren’t far off now. It’s amazing and bittersweet all at once, watching him grow while wishing time would slow down just a little. Can I go back in time already?

    Maybe this is your reminder too: just because your wins aren’t loud, doesn’t mean they don’t count. 

    Sometimes, getting through the week is the achievement.

  • The Importance of Being Aware of My Stress Levels as a Mum

    The Importance of Being Aware of My Stress Levels as a Mum

    There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes with being a mum. It’s not just physical tiredness – it’s the mental load, the constant juggling, the mental checklist that’s always running in my mind. As a mum to two energetic boys and someone working full-time, I’ve come to realise something important… if I’m not aware of my stress levels, everything else starts to be affected.

    For a long time, I’ve always felt the need to be “busy” like I really have to be. I thought being stretched thin meant I was doing a good job – showing up for my kids, delivering at work, keeping the house in place. But the truth is, when stress goes unnoticed or unmanaged, it doesn’t just stay quietly in the background. It affects everything – my patience, my energy, my mood, and even the way I am with my children and husband. 

    Why Stress Awareness Matters

    Stress doesn’t always show up loudly. Sometimes it shows up as irritability over small things, snapping when I don’t mean to, or feeling overwhelmed by little things building up. Other times, it’s a constant “I need to do this…” in the background whilst attending to more than I probably should at once. It’s a great sense that I’m always “on” but never fully in the moment. I guess I’ve gotten used to so much that it feels like I’m on autopilot. 

    Becoming aware of my stress levels has been a turning point. It’s helped me realise what I actually need right now, not what the to-do list says. It might still be a work in progress but it’s still progress. This is helping me to show up as the mum and person I want to be.

    Because the reality is, our children don’t need a perfect mum. They need a happy one. 

    The Ripple Effect on Motherhood

    When I ignore my stress, I notice it in my parenting almost immediately. My patience shortens. I rush moments that deserve slowing down. I become more reactive than responsive. And that’s not the kind of environment I want to create for my boys.

    On the flip side, when I’m aware of my stress and take small steps to manage it, everything shifts. I’m calmer. More present. More able to laugh and listen – not just get through the day.

    Stress awareness isn’t about eliminating stress altogether (let’s be honest, that’s not realistic). It’s about recognising when I’m reaching my limit and giving myself permission to respond with care instead of pushing through simply because I feel like I have to. 

    Balancing Work, Motherhood, and Me

    Working full-time in marketing adds another layer to the mental load. Deadlines, meetings, performance expectations – it’s a lot to carry alongside motherhood. And for a long time, I didn’t separate the two. I’d carry work stress into family time and mum guilt into my workday.

    Now, I try to check in with myself more often. Am I holding onto something from work that’s affecting how I show up at home? Do I need a moment to reset before stepping into “mum mode”?

    Even small transitions – like a quiet five minutes after logging off can make a huge difference.

    Simple Ways I Stay Aware

    Stress awareness doesn’t have to mean long routines or hours of self-care (because who has time for that every day?). For me, it’s about three things: 

    • Noticing my triggers – what consistently tips me into overwhelm
    • Paying attention to my body – headaches, fatigue, have I eaten? 
    • Letting go of perfection – some days, “good enough” is more than enough, you know? 

    A Gentle Reminder to Other Mums

    If you’re reading this and feeling stretched, you’re not alone. Being aware of your stress isn’t a sign you’re struggling – it’s a sign you’re paying attention. And that awareness is powerful.

    You deserve to feel calm, supported, and present – not just for your children, but for yourself too.

    Because when we take care of our stress, we’re not just helping ourselves – we’re creating a happier, connected home for our families.

    And that matters more than anything

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